Imagine you are scrolling endlessly through profiles. Each one is a possible match. You feel your fingers cramping, then you notice that the eyes are glazed over. Does this sound familiar to you? Online dating coaches for men. It’s time to take back control of your life and pursue your dreams.
When you are blindfolded, online dating can seem like trying to locate a needle amongst haystacks. The goal is to make meaningful connections, not simply swipe right or left. You can stand out by working with a coach who will boost your self-confidence and help refine your style.
These coaches are often asked to recommend certain key strategies.
*Create Your profile**
The first impression is crucial. Consider your profile to be your digital “handshake”. Coaches recommend focusing more on authenticity than perfection. You can share a couple of stories about yourself, your quirks, passions, or what drives you.
You could say, “I enjoy hiking” instead. “Last Summer, I hiked Mount Rainier. At the top, the wind nearly blew me off!” The vivid description will pique curiosity.
Photographs are more important than you think
Photos should be able to tell stories. You can skip the blurry selfies in the bathroom and group photos where nobody knows who you are. You can use images of high quality that reflect different facets in your life – travels, hobbies and candid moments.
Coaches may even suggest that a professional photographer takes some pictures. Although it may seem extreme, think of this scenario: Would you ever wear sweatpants during a job application?
*Mastering the art of conversation**
You’ve found someone to match with. What next? It’s important to get the first message right. You should avoid generic messages like “Hey!” and “What’s Up?” They recommend using something engaging, like a specific part of their profile.
Imagine reading someone’s bio and seeing that they are a dog lover. Say, “I can see you are a dog-lover!” What’s the name of your puppy? Simple but effective, it’s a good way to begin a real conversation.
*Balancing Humor And Seriousness**
Do not force your humor. Let your natural humor shine! Focus on kindness and being sincere instead of trying hard to be funny.
The client who shared this example of humor was a man from the UK. He noticed that his partner had pictures taken in different places, and so he asked her “Are You Secretly Carmen Sandiego?”. She absolutely loved it.
*Dealing With Rejection**
It’s painful to be rejected, but everyone experiences it. Brad Pitt gets ghosted every now and again (okay, not him). The coaches stress resilience; do not take this personally and continue your search.
You can keep perspective by remembering that each ‘no” brings you one step closer to meeting someone who will say ‘yes.
Set realistic Expectations
Keep your expectations in line with reality when you browse profiles. You are not perfect, and neither is anyone else.
Good coaches will regularly remind their clients that love doesn’t happen instantly. It takes patience and time.
Conclusion… scratch that, we’re not going to make any conclusions today. You’ve seen a glimpse of how an online coach can transform swipes into dates and dates into relationships. Have fun swiping and I hope Cupid hits its mark as soon as possible!